Please read Judges 14 in your Bible. For myself, I used the NIV to prepare these remarks.
Our first look at the adult Samson is in Judges 14, where Samson makes a big mistake in marriage, but God use it to get him busy about soldiering the people of Israel out from under the Philistine boot. While the account is deadly serious, it has some comedic elements and therefore reminds one of marriage in general. Marriage is a deep well from which those of us who have a sense of humor can draw. In the spirit of the passage, let me offer a couple humorous takes on marriage.
The speaker at a women’s club was lecturing on the subject of marriage. Her point was that women are to be partners with their husbands, not to mother them. To reinforce this point, she excitedly asked the audience of women, “How many of you want to mother your husband?”
Only one woman raised her hand. The speaker was shocked. This had never happened before, in all the times she had given this speech. She asked, “Do you really want to mother your husband?”
“Mother?” the woman echoed. “I thought you said smother!”
Now, in the interest of fairness, I offer this view from the other side of aisle.
A guy was out for a walk when he saw a guy walking a dog. The pooch was an impressive specimen of a German Shepherd. “Nice dog!” he said.
“I got this dog for my wife,” he replied.
The man sighed. “Sure wish I could make a trade like that.”
In today’s passage we’ll see Samson, the biblical macho man, making a number of mistakes, sinning against God. But the big mistake, the one that gets to the heart of the matter, is Samson’s mistaken marriage.
Samson proves God can accomplish His will with our help or in spite of our helping ourselves.
- Samson Sin #1 = Marrying a Pagan Woman.
This was a culture of arranged marriages. That’s why, in spite of being the strongest man in history, Samson still asked his father to arrange for him to marry her because that’s the way those folks got married (1+2).
This was “love at first sight” or “lust at first sight,” or something equally unreliable. Samson made this decision based only on what he’d SEEN. He doesn’t even meet or talk to this woman until v. 7, after the marriage had been arranged!
Mr. & Mrs. M. tried to get Samson to do right; they may be a little child-centered, but are otherwise not at fault. What was the right thing to do? As we read in Deuteronomy 7:1-6, God had expressly forbidden marriage between His people and pagans. He knew it would lead to divided loyalties and then idolatry. Accordingly, Samson’s parents objected to his intended being an UNCIRCUMCISED PHILISTINE (3). Samson’s folks used that phrase in the usual way – as an insult. You can understand their resentment, as at this time the Philistines WERE RULING OVER ISRAEL (4), and had been for forty years (13:1).
Naturally, they preferred a nice local girl. The word RELATIVES refers to the tribe of Dan. (No jokes about inbreeding, please.) ALL OUR PEOPLE refers to the nation of Israel. You can almost hear a Jewish mother say, “Can’t you find a good JEWISH girl?”
Here’s the important verse of the passage, the part that proves God can do His will with or without our cooperation. Verse four explains God’s plan was to force a confrontation between Samson and the Philistines and a feud over a beautiful woman is a time-honored way to start a fight.
Samson was selfish and stubborn. Here again with the “love at first sight” thing; the NIV translates v. 3 to say, “SHE’S THE RIGHT ONE FOR ME.” It literally means, “She is right in my eyes.” This is Samson being selfish and undisciplined, disobedient to the law of God.
This attitude characterized the Israelites at this time. As 17:6 & 21:25 elaborate, IN THE DAYS ISRAEL HAD NO KING EVERYONE DID AS HE SAW FIT. This sounds very close to the condition of the whole human race before God destroyed them with the flood: Genesis 6:5 states, EVERY INCLINATION OF THE THOUGHTS OF THE HUMAN HEART WAS ONLY EVIL ALL THE TIME.
- Samson Sin #2 = Breaking t Nazirite Rules.
REMINDER = in looking at chapter 13, we learned that to be a Nazirite was to take on an additional set of rules in order to more fully dedicate one’s self to God. Samson was supposed to follow these rules his entire life. It is implied that this special relationship with God was the source of his miraculous strength.
Rule #1 = abstain from all fruit of the grapevine.
Verse eight tells us Samson was in a vineyard alone. “When mom’s away, the kids will play.” Here, in one place, at one time, it looks like he broke TWO of the Nazirite rules.
To be fair, we have to note three things. One, we’re just observing opportunity here. Why had he chosen to go to the vineyard alone and to meet the future Mrs. Samson there beside?
Two, this was the site where he’d had a miraculous experience of the Holy Spirit and killed that lion (5-6). Maybe he went there to see what was left of the lion.
Three, the text does not specifically say Samson ate any grapes. BUT if he had, it was a violation of the Nazirite rules.
Rule #2 = avoid touching a dead body.
As he traveled with his parents from Zorah to Timnah, the family walked through a vineyard (5-6). Timnah was a town situated in the same valley as Zorah. But apparently they weren’t travelling close together, because suddenly, a YOUNG LION (sent by the Lord) decided he looked like lunch, charging and roaring at him.
Verse six is the second time we’ve read this about Samson = THE SPIRIT OF THE LORD CAME POWERFULLY ON him. This empowerment went right to Samson’s muscles and enabled him to tear the lion apart as easily as one would tear apart a YOUNG GOAT.
It’s a miracle. Super strength! (See also 14:19, 15:14 and 16:28-29.)
Samson gave Mr. & Mrs. Manoah the “mushroom treatment,” he kept mum on the subject. That will be an important point later in the story. Somehow, Samson is the only one who knew about the lion attack.
SOME TIME LATER (8-9), Samson returned to the site of his victory. It must’ve been quite a while later, because some bees had taken over the rotting remains of the YOUNG LION and established a colony there. Without ANY sense of hygiene, Samson scoops out TWO hands full of the honey from the lion carcass. GROSS! Worse, he spreads his germs to his parents. WHY would you eat honey off another person’s hands?! Because he didn’t bother to tell them where it came from, I suppose. To my way of thinking, the fact that Samson didn’t tell his parents where the honey came from implies that his visit to the vineyard included violation(s) of his Nazirite commitments.
Interestingly, a beehive in a carcass was a widely-believed thing in the ancient world. The Egyptians related bees to their bull-god Apis. The scientific name of the honeybee is Apis, an keeping bees is called “apiculture,” with beehives called “apiaries.” Modern science shows that bees will make hives in empty spaces of all kinds. A gutted rib cage would be just about ideal.
The Law of Moses (see Numbers 19:13) forbade touching a dead HUMAN body, declaring that person “unclean.” This is a lion’s corpse, not a human’s, so does this not count against Samson? One part of the Nazirite vow (Numbers 6:6) forbid touching A DEAD BODY, not being specific about which kind. So, to be fair, it’s iffy. I mean, what Samson did was gross, but was it really a sin?
Rule #3 = Abstain from intoxicating drinks.
What can we prove here? Verse ten says that they held a wedding feast, AS WAS CUSTOMARY FOR YOUNG MEN. What happened at the FEAST? We don’t know exactly, but the Hebrew word for FEAST is literally translated as “a drinking party.” If this was anything like a “bachelor party” then what is CUSTOMARY in our culture is binge drinking and bad behavior.
If you import our culture’s practice of a bachelor party, that might not be an exact fit. If we’ve learned anything about the Bible, we should learn that we do not live in the same culture. Assume nothing. Research everything.
So what can we take away from this chapter? The marriage is the definitive sin, the rest is a little sketchy. God used Samson’s sinful stubbornness to push him along a path of confrontation with the Philistines.
- Sam’s Sin #3 = Not Taking His Job Seriously.
The 30 companions with whom he feasted may’ve been spies. You’ve got to wonder, did Samson think this through? Let’s do it for him: You’re in enemy territory and the enemy invites 30 local guys to your party; any chance at least one of them is reporting to the enemy king?
Verse eleven gives us a reason to think these 30 men were spies: WHEN THE PEOPLE [of Timnah] SAW HIM, THEY CHOSE THIRTY MEN TO BE HIS COMPANIONS. They made these arrangements after the SAW Samson and decided he might just be a threat. I’d guess Samson LOOKED like a mighty man. He had the body of Arnold Schwarzenegger but the mind of Larry the Cable Guy.
My guess is that these 30 guys were the Philistine version of “protective custody,” there in case Samson wanted to make trouble.
The riddle (12-18) was a sign he wasn’t acting responsibly. Instead, he was gambling and goofing around. This does not seem very macho: the bet involved CLOTHES. It’s like Samson is betting in order to get a closet full of tuxes. Exchanging riddles was, in that culture, a typical activity. People of that time enjoyed riddles as contests of wit or skill.
Samson shows off his cleverness with a cute rhyming couplet. The riddle involves the honey he obtained from the lion’s carcass. Since, as the text plainly shows us, only Samson knew this happened, the 30 groomsmen can’t begin to guess the answer, even over three days of guessing.
Desperate and about to lose the bet, the 30 feasters turn to their countrywoman. Rather than appeal to her patriotism, they threaten to burn her and her dad down with their house (15). Spies or not, they are not nice.
By their words in v. 15, we understand they suspected that the whole wedding thing was a ruse to trick them out of their wardrobes and they think Miss Philistine is in on the scam. This riddle gaming thing was serious business and an unusual amount of cash.
Samson’s fiancé uses the stereotypical tricks of crying and nagging (16-17). This is a preview of Samson’s affair with Delilah (16:1-22). It’s amazing to think that God gave Samson this kind of warning and he STILL fell for Delilah. Eventually, she wore him out with her tears and pleas, and he gave her the answer, which she then passed on to the 30 Philistine groomsmen.
These guys savored their victory in secret until the very last moment, when they declared the answer (18). Samson’s retort is not at all nice, calling his betrothed a HEIFER! As goofy as this situation seems to us, it was the means God used to provoke the first confrontation between Samson and the Philistines.
- Sam Sin #4 = Had a Quick & Violent Temper.
Samson killed and stole in order to pay his debt. ASHKELON was one of the capital cities of Philistia, so Samson is striking right into the heart of the enemy. Samson selected the 30 best-dressed men in Ashkelon, killed them, and stole their fine clothing, which he used to pay off his debt to his 30 gambling buddies.
Feeling betrayed by his fiancé, Samson was angry with her and effectively abandoned her, the woman he’d stubbornly insisted on having for his wife. No doubt this was a problem: some practical-minded person said, “We’ve been having a wedding feat all week, it’d be a shame to waste it. Somebody volunteer to marry this pretty little gal!” This would also avoid disgracing the jilted bride. As we will see in the next chapter, Samson was unaware of these arrangements. Boy is he gonna be mad!
In Samson we have a guy with commitment issues: like that’s a new story! This is the climax of the story of Samson; the remaining two chapters of how he took the fight to the enemy. This chapter shows how God used Samson’s character flaws of impulsiveness, selfishness, and stubbornness to deliver His people.
Two things we can learn from Samson: one, life is much easier when we obey God. If we follow His lead to do His will, we don’t have to end up defeated by our enemies. Two, even people with the Holy Spirit do not have other-worldly perfection. Even with the Spirit’s help, we still struggle against our character flaws and temptations to sin.
This chapter is more about God than Samson. God’s will is going to be done, whether we cooperate with it or not. Samson illustrates how our stubbornness and defiance does NOT deter the fulfillment of the will of God in that person’s life.